It was so much easier as a kid. Making friends. We both liked dogs or swinging or maybe our parents were friends or we were the only two kids in out class with only brothers. Making friends was as simple as one common denominator between you and me. I know it wasn't always that easy and I know that there had to be something more to stick it out longer; to become good or even best friends.
How does it work now? Sometimes it seems effortless, like sharing a room with someone when you're on vacation and talking until 3 am (or later) or sitting on the floor of your living room singing Bohemian Rapsody into hairbrushes (I told you, I'm younger thanmy 31 years!) but sometimes... just sometimes... do you ever meet someone and think to yourself, "I want to be friends with them."
I've had that a few times lately, and I'm almost at a loss of how to go about getting to know these people better. I think it would be easier if I was in... I don't know... the same stage of life as these people? If I was married, if they were single. There would be more common denominators, maybe? But what if the only common denominator that you could think of is their love of God, their deep faith along with how much you both like (uuummmmm) cute headbands?
Sure, there's facebook, but as a friend recently blogged about facebook, twitter, technology isn't necessarily real friendship. I think that's why I have given it more and more of a back seat or even trunk location in the car of my life lately. How can you get deep with people and really get to know them across the interwebs? Can I, as an adult, go up to someone and say, "hi! I know we're facebook friends and we see each other at church sometimes... I know you're ________ (married/kids/in school, fill in the blank), but I'd really like to be real life friends with you".
What if I just wanted to see if the limited knowledge (i.e. facebook knowledge) I have of them could turn into something more meaningful."
Would I need to end that with, "I'm not a stalker, I promise"?
Why does this feel so much trickier as a 31 year old?